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Saturday, June 14, 2014

Isolation Is The New Black

I heard yesterday that Bowe Bergdahl was in insolation for 2 years.....2 years without seeing another human beings face.  I hadn't thought of it before but isolation is a true form of torture.

We don't need Al Queda to put us into isolation, we do that to ourselves every time we think we are the only ones with money problems, the only one with marriage problems, health problems, or children problems.  Even with bookstores filled with self-help books we find ways to isolate ourselves into thinking..."I am the only one."  (I guess I thought all those books were written just for me)

"No one will understand"

Further isolation....

"I am so stupid to have let this occur."

Then...."there is no help for me."

Which can only be followed by depression, more loneliness and true unhappiness.

If you are caught in the trap of negative thinking it is so hard to change those tapes, but it can be done.  Please know you are not alone in whatever situation you are in.  Books are great at helping, but people are better.  Find people who are going through what you are.....connect with them.  Support groups are there for a reason.  I had specialized my problem so perfectly that I was convinced no one else was going through what I was.  Therefore I would not be able to find help because it was a problem of my own doing and how did I expect there to be help?  Isn't that exhausting?  Thoughts are not real, and that thinking was not real.  I convinced myself I deserved to feel the way I did, to go through what I was experiencing...I deserved it.  Isn't that sad?  And exhausting?  There is no energy in that thinking.

If it takes a village to raise a child, then it takes a village to raise adults too.

Start with this....abandon negative thoughts .  All of them.  And not just negative thought about yourself.  Get rid of the ones you have about anyone or anything.  Positive thoughts create energy....it just does.  Negative thoughts will drain your energy and you will not be able to see the solutions. And there are always solutions....always.

Positive thoughts energize, negative thoughts drain.  You really are what you think.  The next time you go for a walk alone what do you think about?  Is it positive or negative?

What are you thinking?  No seriously, what are you thinking???


12 comments:

  1. You're sharing some real wisdom, today, girlfriend. Good counsel for anyone to take to heart!

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    1. It came with a huge price...I still work on fear every day...but at least it is better...thank you my friend for helping me think...

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  2. Thanks for the reminder, Donna. Positive thoughts lead to positive relationships.

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    1. Energy is only positive...negative has no energy...I wish I had said that better, Thank you for reading..

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  3. Thanks for the GREAT reminders. I miss you Donna, always love when you share your wisdom and love with us.

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  4. Wonderful said Donna. And as for your fear. We are told over & over again, in the scriptures & in conferences talks that we should not fear (unless we are sinning & then we can & should repent). Lots of Love & Hugs <3 <3 <3 Lorine

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    1. I would always read that, but never could translate it to myself

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  5. You are absolutely right! It's sometimes pretty easy to fall down that negative hole. It's just a little more work to vanquish those thoughts and head for that positive energy.

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    1. I have found that happy is a choice....hard to make that choice sometimes

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  6. Keep up that positive energy we'll do it together...synergy!!

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